Jedna z nejbolestiv\u011bj\u0161\u00edch zku\u0161enost\u00ed, kterou lid\u00e9 popisuj\u00ed po letech v c\u00edrkvi, je ta chv\u00edle, kdy si uv\u011bdom\u00ed, \u017ee p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed, kter\u00e9 \u017eili, nebylo skute\u010dn\u00e9. \u017de ti, kdo jim volali, psali nebo je zvali na k\u00e1vu, m\u011bli od za\u010d\u00e1tku v hlav\u011b \u201evy\u0161\u0161\u00ed c\u00edl\u201c \u2013 p\u0159iv\u00e9st je k Bohu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To nen\u00ed p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed. To je manipulace. A \u010dlov\u011bk, kter\u00fd to pozn\u00e1, u\u017e nikdy nem\u016f\u017ee v\u011b\u0159it, \u017ee vztah byl opravdov\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zrada skryt\u00e1 pod zbo\u017enost\u00ed<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kdy\u017e se p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed redukuje na \u201emisijn\u00ed n\u00e1stroj\u201c, druh\u00fd p\u0159est\u00e1v\u00e1 b\u00fdt \u010dlov\u011bkem. St\u00e1v\u00e1 se projektem. Tv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed se, \u017ee jde o n\u011bj \u2013 ale ve skute\u010dnosti jde o obraz c\u00edrkve, o po\u010det \u201ez\u00edskan\u00fdch\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ticho po m\u011bs\u00edc\u00edch \u010di letech se n\u00e1hle prolom\u00ed zpr\u00e1vou: \u201eJak se m\u00e1\u0161? Mimochodem, nechce\u0161 p\u0159ij\u00edt na shrom\u00e1\u017ed\u011bn\u00ed?\u201c A v tu chv\u00edli pad\u00e1 maska. To nen\u00ed radost z kontaktu, to je pln\u011bn\u00ed povinnosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psychologick\u00e1 da\u0148<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro toho, kdo je takto \u201elovec\u201c, to znamen\u00e1 ztr\u00e1tu schopnosti \u017e\u00edt opravdov\u00e9 vztahy. V\u0161ude se dere vina \u2013 m\u011bl bych mu napsat, m\u011bl bych se ozvat, m\u011bl bych\u2026 proto\u017ee \u201edu\u0161e jsou na v\u00e1\u017ek\u00e1ch\u201c. A tak vznikaj\u00ed vztahy bez radosti, vztahy, kter\u00e9 nejsou vztahy, ale strategie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro toho druh\u00e9ho je to naopak pocit zneu\u017eit\u00ed. Pocit, \u017ee byl vta\u017een do hry, kter\u00e1 nikdy nebyla \u010dist\u00e1.
A tohle je stigma, kter\u00e9 m\u016f\u017ee v \u010dlov\u011bku z\u016fstat nav\u017edy: p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed u\u017e nikdy nebude vn\u00edmat stejn\u011b, proto\u017ee si ponese ot\u00e1zku \u2013 \u201enechce m\u011b ten \u010dlov\u011bk n\u00e1hodou jen kv\u016fli sv\u00e9 v\u00ed\u0159e?\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mo\u017en\u00e1 zm\u011bna<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Paradoxn\u011b pr\u00e1v\u011b tam, kde c\u00edrkev nejv\u00edc tla\u010d\u00ed, se prav\u00e1 bl\u00edzkost rozpad\u00e1.
A tam, kde by mohla vzniknout \u2013 v prost\u00e9m, autentick\u00e9m p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed \u2013 ji zab\u00edj\u00ed \u00fa\u010del.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mo\u017en\u00e1 je \u010das to nazvat prav\u00fdm jm\u00e9nem: evangeliza\u010dn\u00ed p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed je p\u0159estrojen\u00e1 manipulace. A jedinou cestou ven je vzd\u00e1t se toho, \u017ee druh\u00fd je \u201e\u00fakol\u201c.
Vztah je vztah, nebo nen\u00ed v\u016fbec.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Jedna z nejbolestiv\u011bj\u0161\u00edch zku\u0161enost\u00ed, kterou lid\u00e9 popisuj\u00ed po letech v c\u00edrkvi, je ta chv\u00edle, kdy si uv\u011bdom\u00ed, \u017ee p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed, kter\u00e9 \u017eili, nebylo skute\u010dn\u00e9. \u017de ti, kdo jim volali, psali nebo je zvali na k\u00e1vu, m\u011bli od za\u010d\u00e1tku v hlav\u011b \u201evy\u0161\u0161\u00ed c\u00edl\u201c \u2013 p\u0159iv\u00e9st je k Bohu. To nen\u00ed p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed. To […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[63],"class_list":["post-10474","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-clanky","tag-robert-krejci"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10474","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=10474"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10474\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=10474"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=10474"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=10474"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}