{"id":6494,"date":"2020-03-17T06:10:20","date_gmt":"2020-03-17T05:10:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/?p=6494"},"modified":"2021-01-27T11:26:22","modified_gmt":"2021-01-27T10:26:22","slug":"varovne-priznaky-gaslightingu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/?p=6494","title":{"rendered":"Varovn\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edznaky Gaslightingu"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n

Sebezpochyb\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed:<\/strong>\u00a0S jistotami ob\u011bti je ot\u0159\u00e1s\u00e1no gaslightingem, a tak \u017eije v trval\u00e9m strachu, \u017ee n\u011bco ud\u011bl\u00e1 \u0161patn\u011b. Kv\u016fli strachu je ob\u011b\u0165 n\u00e1chyln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed d\u00e1le \u201echybovat\u201c a situace se st\u00e1v\u00e1 je\u0161t\u011b nebezpe\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. \u010clov\u011bk se neust\u00e1le s\u00e1m sebe pt\u00e1 \u201eco kdy\u017e?\u201c a ve\u0161ker\u00e1 sv\u00e1 rozhodnut\u00ed rad\u011bji znovu a znovu p\u0159ezkoum\u00e1v\u00e1. To m\u00e1 zna\u010dn\u00fd vliv na jejich schopnost \u0159e\u0161it probl\u00e9my a konat \u017eivotn\u00ed rozhodnut\u00ed.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

\u201eNejsem jen p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 citliv\u00fd?\u201c<\/strong>\u00a0Podsouv\u00e1n\u00ed a obvi\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed jsou z\u00e1kladn\u00edmi znaky gaslightingu. U ob\u011bti se postupem \u010dasu vyv\u00edj\u00ed extr\u00e9mn\u00ed vn\u00edmavost na neust\u00e1l\u00e9 poni\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed. Je j\u00ed st\u00e1le opakov\u00e1no, \u017ee je \u201ep\u0159ecitliv\u011bl\u00e1\u201c a v d\u016fsledku toho, tomu postupn\u011b za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 i v\u011b\u0159it. Ne\u017e cokoliv ud\u011bl\u00e1, sna\u017e\u00ed se ujistit, \u017ee neud\u011bl\u00e1 chybu, aby se vyvarovala je\u0161t\u011b v\u011bt\u0161\u00edmu pon\u00ed\u017een\u00ed. Gaslightovan\u00fd je nucen zpochyb\u0148ovat v\u0161e, co pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1, a tak mu nezb\u00fdv\u00e1, ne\u017e se neust\u00e1l\u00e9 pt\u00e1t: \u201eNejsem jen p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 citliv\u00fd?\u201c<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Omlouv\u00e1n\u00ed se:<\/strong>\u00a0V \u017eivot\u011b s narcistou se ob\u011b\u0165 po\u0159\u00e1d za n\u011bco omlouv\u00e1. Nikdy nic neud\u011bl\u00e1 dob\u0159e. Postupem \u010dasu se omlouv\u00e1 i za to, \u017ee v\u016fbec je, jeliko\u017e se t\u00edm sna\u017e\u00ed vyhnout dal\u0161\u00edmu konfliktu s agresorem. Omluvu ob\u011b\u0165 nevyslovuje ze slu\u0161nosti, ale vn\u00edm\u00e1 ji jako mocnou strategii, jak z\u016fstat v bezpe\u010d\u00ed \u2013 n\u00e1stroj, jak ve v\u00e1le\u010dn\u00e9 z\u00f3n\u011b do\u010dasn\u011b odzbrojit gaslightera. Ov\u0161em nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed schopnost\u00ed omluvy je fakt, \u017ee sn\u00edm\u00e1 vinu z narcisty a ob\u011b\u0165 ji bere na sebe, \u010d\u00edm\u017e od sebe odklon\u00ed \u010d\u00e1st narcistova hn\u011bvu.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Bez radosti a \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed:<\/strong>\u00a0Kdo \u017eije v nep\u0159etr\u017eit\u00e9 tyranii gaslightuj\u00edc\u00edho narcisty, za\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 smrteln\u011b vyhrocen\u00e9 okam\u017eiky. Mnoho ob\u011bt\u00ed proch\u00e1z\u00ed fyzick\u00fdm a du\u0161evn\u00edm t\u00fdr\u00e1n\u00edm vedouc\u00edm k prom\u011bn\u011b osobnosti, zmaten\u00ed, samot\u011b, vyd\u011b\u0161enosti a ne\u0161\u0165astnosti. Ve stavu melancholie ob\u011b\u0165 \u010dasto z\u016fst\u00e1v\u00e1 i dlouho pot\u00e9, co od utla\u010dovatele unikne.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

V\u00edm, \u017ee n\u011bco je stra\u0161n\u011b \u0161patn\u011b, ale nedok\u00e1\u017eu p\u0159ij\u00edt na to co:<\/strong>\u00a0C\u00edlem gaslightingu je udr\u017eovat si vliv a kontrolu nad gaslightovan\u00fdm. Funguje to jen tehdy, kdy\u017e ob\u011b\u0165 netu\u0161\u00ed, co se opravdu d\u011bje. \u010c\u00edm v\u00edce ob\u011b\u0165 zpochyb\u0148uje sv\u00e9 vn\u00edm\u00e1n\u00ed reality a schopnosti, t\u00edm sp\u00ed\u0161e bude z\u00e1visl\u00e1 na sv\u00e9m utla\u010dovateli. Je to za\u010darovan\u00fd kruh ud\u00e1lost\u00ed, kter\u00fd je pro ob\u011b\u0165 naprosto matouc\u00ed, co\u017e je p\u0159esn\u011b gaslighter\u016fv z\u00e1m\u011br.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Zadr\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed informac\u00ed:<\/strong>\u00a0Pro\u017e\u00edvan\u00fd stud a \u00fatlak je s postupem \u010dasu obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 skr\u00fdvat. Kdy\u017e ob\u011btem p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9 a rodina \u0159\u00edkaj\u00ed, \u017ee jsou utla\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed, tak uh\u00fdbaj\u00ed. Rad\u011bji si p\u0159ivykaj\u00ed o dan\u00fdch z\u00e1le\u017eitostech nemluvit, aby se vyhnuly dal\u0161\u00edm konflikt\u016fm. U narcistick\u00e9ho \u00fatlaku je t\u00e9ma studu zvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 o\u017eehav\u00e9. T\u011b\u017eko se lze v\u0161ak domn\u00edvat, \u017ee by zlo\u010diny gaslightuj\u00edc\u00edho narcisty mohly ob\u011b\u0165 stigmatizovat kompletn\u011b. Stud je p\u0159irozenou doprovodnou reakc\u00ed spole\u010densk\u00e9ho selh\u00e1n\u00ed a nav\u00edc i p\u0159\u00edm\u00fdm n\u00e1sledkem \u00fatlaku, jeliko\u017e ob\u011b\u0165 nev\u00ed, jak se br\u00e1nit. Tento stud se projevuje obrann\u00fdmi mechanismy a odta\u017eitost\u00ed od ostatn\u00edch. Hranice mezi pro\u017e\u00edvan\u00fdm studem a nutnou podporou zvn\u011bj\u0161ku je slo\u017eit\u00e1 a nelze zde v rychlosti vysv\u011btlit.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Neschopnost \u010dinit jednoduch\u00e1 rozhodnut\u00ed:<\/strong>B\u00fdt chycen v narcistov\u011b spletit\u00e9 s\u00edti klam\u016f a iluz\u00ed je jako b\u00fdt mouchou v pavu\u010din\u011b. V\u00ed moucha, \u017ee pot\u00e9, co se k s\u00edti p\u0159ibl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed, ji n\u011bkdo omot\u00e1 a za\u017eiva se\u017eere? Nikoliv. Stavem chycenosti v s\u00edti je v tomto p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b systematick\u00e1 fragmentace osobnosti ob\u011bti. Pod neust\u00e1lou hrozbou ob\u011b\u0165 posiluje psychickou vazbu k utla\u010dovateli, \u010d\u00edm\u017e se sna\u017e\u00ed vyhnout dal\u0161\u00ed fragmentaci sv\u00e9 identity. Jev\u00ed se jako p\u0159ita\u017eliv\u00e9 ustoupit a vzd\u00e1t se vlastn\u00edho autentick\u00e9ho potenci\u00e1lu. V tom p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b ov\u0161em je tak\u00e9 nutn\u00e9 \u017e\u00e1dat o povolen\u00ed cokoliv ud\u011blat. Nen\u00ed povoleno m\u00edt vlastn\u00ed n\u00e1zor, nen\u00ed povoleno vyhr\u00e1t spor, pocit n\u00e1tlaku a pon\u00ed\u017een\u00ed neust\u00e1v\u00e1, jsou potla\u010dov\u00e1ny vlastn\u00ed my\u0161lenky, hodnoty, pot\u0159eby a n\u00e1zory. Pot\u00e9, co je ob\u011b\u0165 chycena v s\u00edti, ztr\u00e1c\u00ed ve\u0161kerou autonomii.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Pocit, \u017ee jsem b\u00fdval jin\u00fdm \u010dlov\u011bkem \u2013 sebejist\u011bj\u0161\u00edm, energi\u010dt\u011bj\u0161\u00edm i uvoln\u011bn\u011bj\u0161\u00edm:<\/strong>Aby ob\u011b\u0165 p\u0159e\u017eila, st\u00e1v\u00e1 se sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed toho, \u010demu\u017e se \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 \u201enarcist\u016fv tanec\u201c. Jedn\u00e1 se o obrann\u00fd mechanismus, b\u011bhem n\u011bho\u017e je ob\u011b\u0165 v relativn\u00edm bezpe\u010d\u00ed. Oproti tomu ale hroz\u00ed, \u017ee ob\u011b\u0165 \u00fapln\u011b ztrat\u00ed svou vlastn\u00ed identitu kv\u016fli vnit\u0159n\u00edm \u00fastupk\u016fm, touze po sm\u00edru a \u00fat\u011b\u0161e. Sna\u017e\u00ed se vyh\u00fdbat v\u0161em konflikt\u016fm, b\u00fdt pro sv\u00e9 okol\u00ed co nejp\u0159\u00edjemn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Pokud nen\u00ed ob\u011btem podstata tohoto narcistick\u00e9ho \u201etance\u201c b\u011bhem terapie vysv\u011btlena, z\u016fst\u00e1vaj\u00ed v potenci\u00e1ln\u00edm riziku st\u00e1t se znovu zdrojem st\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00edho nebo jin\u00e9ho narcisty. D\u016fvodem je vyp\u011bstovan\u00fd podm\u00edn\u011bn\u00fd reflex (jako u Pavlovov\u00fdch ps\u016f), d\u00edky kter\u00e9mu se snadno st\u00e1vaj\u00ed ter\u010dem hladov\u00fdch narcist\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed neust\u00e1le lov\u00ed a snadno dok\u00e1\u017e\u00ed vyc\u00edtit, kdo je vhodnou potravou.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Pocit bezmoci a lhostejnosti:<\/strong>\u00a0Co kdysi vypadalo nebesky, se zm\u011bnilo v peklo. Zde nen\u00ed prostor pro radost a m\u00edr, pouze pro strach a \u00fatlak. \u017divot ztratil jak\u00fdchkoliv vyhl\u00eddky, zhasla v\u0161echna sv\u011btla, z\u016fst\u00e1v\u00e1 pouze hust\u00e1 mlha deprese. V z\u00e1jmu p\u0159e\u017eit\u00ed je ob\u011b\u0165 nucena \u017e\u00edt v podm\u00ednk\u00e1ch vynucovan\u00e9 poddanosti, kdy pod vlivem gaslighterov\u00fdch argumenta\u010dn\u00edch faul\u016f a klam\u016f ztratila jistotu ve vlastn\u00ed intuici, pam\u011b\u0165 a zdrav\u00fd \u00fasudek. Up\u0159eden\u00e1 vl\u00e1kna l\u017e\u00ed j\u00ed neust\u00e1le podsouvaj\u00ed, \u017ee je p\u0159ecitliv\u011bl\u00e1, nerozumn\u00e1, nesoudn\u00e1, p\u0159eh\u00e1n\u00ed, m\u00e1 moc bujnou fantazii a \u017ee ve skute\u010dnosti nem\u00e1 \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd d\u016fvod se roz\u010dilovat. T\u00edm, \u017ee toto znovu a znovu sly\u0161\u00ed, je realita okoln\u00edho sv\u011bta postupn\u011b obracena naruby a ob\u011b\u0165 opravdu za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 v\u011b\u0159it, \u017ee to tak je.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n

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Narcistick\u00e1 forma psychick\u00e9ho utla\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed postupn\u011b u ob\u011bti navozuje extr\u00e9mn\u00ed stavy \u00fazkosti a zmatenosti, kter\u00e9 vedou a\u017e do bodu, kdy si do\u010dista p\u0159est\u00e1v\u00e1 v\u011b\u0159it. Pot\u00e9 je ji\u017e skute\u010dn\u00fdm zajatcem. N\u011bkter\u00fdm jedinc\u016fm se povede sebrat dost s\u00edly na to, aby utekli na svobodu. K tomu v\u011bt\u0161inou doch\u00e1z\u00ed a\u017e po n\u011bkolika ne\u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00fdch bolestn\u00fdch pokusech. Kdy\u017e se jim to kone\u010dn\u011b povede, mohou p\u0159ij\u00edt pr\u00e1v\u011b do va\u0161\u00ed terapeutick\u00e9 ordinace. Va\u0161\u00ed prac\u00ed nen\u00ed jen proj\u00edt s nimi terapi\u00ed, ale tak\u00e9 vysv\u011btlit jim znaky a d\u016fsledky narcistick\u00e9ho \u00fatlaku. T\u00edm zp\u016fsobem ob\u011bti pom\u016f\u017eete znovunab\u00fdt sebev\u011bdom\u00ed a sebed\u016fv\u011bru ve vn\u00edm\u00e1n\u00ed okoln\u00edho sv\u011bta, \u010d\u00edm\u017e dostanou pot\u0159ebnou v\u00fdbavu k tomu, aby p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011b dok\u00e1zali narcistick\u00e9 jedn\u00e1n\u00ed v\u010das rozpoznat a vyvarovat se op\u011btovn\u00e9mu zran\u011bn\u00ed. Neztr\u00e1cejte nad\u011bji. Samotn\u00fd fakt, \u017ee ti lid\u00e9 takto extr\u00e9mn\u00ed \u00fatlak p\u0159e\u017eili, je d\u016fkazem s\u00edly a nezlomnosti lidsk\u00e9ho ducha.<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tento text je pokra\u010dov\u00e1n\u00edm \u010dl\u00e1nku „3 taktick\u00e9 f\u00e1ze Gaslightingu<\/a>„<\/p>\r\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sebezpochyb\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed:\u00a0S jistotami ob\u011bti je ot\u0159\u00e1s\u00e1no gaslightingem, a tak \u017eije v trval\u00e9m strachu, \u017ee n\u011bco ud\u011bl\u00e1 \u0161patn\u011b. Kv\u016fli strachu je ob\u011b\u0165 n\u00e1chyln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed d\u00e1le \u201echybovat\u201c a situace se st\u00e1v\u00e1 je\u0161t\u011b nebezpe\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. \u010clov\u011bk se neust\u00e1le s\u00e1m sebe pt\u00e1 \u201eco kdy\u017e?\u201c a ve\u0161ker\u00e1 sv\u00e1 rozhodnut\u00ed rad\u011bji znovu a znovu p\u0159ezkoum\u00e1v\u00e1. To m\u00e1 zna\u010dn\u00fd vliv […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":8333,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[112,134],"tags":[34],"class_list":["post-6494","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-nabozenstvi","category-gaslighting","tag-sozo"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Snimek-obrazovky-2021-01-12-221708.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6494","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=6494"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6494\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6991,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6494\/revisions\/6991"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/8333"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=6494"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=6494"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=6494"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}