{"id":7023,"date":"2020-05-14T19:54:32","date_gmt":"2020-05-14T17:54:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/?p=7023"},"modified":"2021-01-27T11:26:21","modified_gmt":"2021-01-27T10:26:21","slug":"muz-za-oponou-nabizena-reseni-autora-knihy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/?p=7023","title":{"rendered":"Mu\u017e za oponou \u2013 nab\u00edzen\u00e1 \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed autora\u00a0knihy"},"content":{"rendered":"<header class=\"entry-header\">\n<p class=\"entry-meta\"><strong>Co d\u011blat , kdy\u017e je n\u011bkdo z m\u00fdch nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch v kultu nebo extr\u00e9mistick\u00e9 skupin\u011b?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/header>\n<p>Jestli n\u011bkdo z\u00a0tv\u00fdch bl\u00edzk\u00fdch je \u010dlenem kultu \u010di extr\u00e9mistick\u00e9 skupiny, m\u011bj pros\u00edm na pam\u011bti, \u017ee pro \u010dleny je obvykle nesm\u00edrn\u011b obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 skupinu opustit. Tv\u00e9mu bl\u00edzk\u00e9mu vtiskli do hlavy p\u0159edstavu, \u017ee nikdo jin\u00fd ne\u017e v\u016fdce kultu, kult nebo skupina ho skute\u010dn\u011b nemiluje a nezaj\u00edm\u00e1 se o jeho dobro, a proto pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b odol\u00e1 v\u0161em tv\u00fdm snah\u00e1m mu pomoci. To ov\u0161em neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee by ses m\u011bl p\u0159estat sna\u017eit. M\u016f\u017ee\u0161 nal\u00e9hat na st\u00e1tn\u00ed org\u00e1ny, aby u tv\u00e9ho bl\u00edzk\u00e9ho byla provedena \u201ekontrola zach\u00e1zen\u00ed\u201c. Jestli\u017ee se ti zd\u00e1, \u017ee tv\u016fj bl\u00edzk\u00fd nen\u00ed d\u00e1le schopen zvl\u00e1dat sv\u00e9 finance nebo jin\u00e9 \u017eivotn\u00ed situace, lze tak\u00e9 zv\u00e1\u017eit pomoc pr\u00e1vn\u00edho z\u00e1stupce.<\/p>\n<p>Odborn\u00edci na du\u0161evn\u00ed zdrav\u00ed nab\u00e1daj\u00ed, abys v\u00a0kontaktu se sv\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edbuzn\u00fdm, kter\u00fd je \u010dlenem kultu, nebyl un\u00e1hlen\u00fd a postupoval pomalu. Neza\u010dni t\u00edm, \u017ee za\u010dne\u0161 hned napadat my\u0161lenky kultu, neo\u010dek\u00e1vej dlouh\u00e1 setk\u00e1n\u00ed a rozhovory. Rozhovory mus\u00ed b\u00fdt kr\u00e1tk\u00e9 a v\u011bcn\u00e9. A\u017e se ti povede obnovit d\u016fv\u011bru, za\u010dnete se v\u00eddat \u010dast\u011bji a v\u00e1\u0161 vztah se bude moci prohlubovat. Nezapome\u0148, \u017ee pokrok je pokrok, by\u0165 jen o p\u00e1r centimetr\u016f. Bu\u010f opatrn\u00fd, aby ses zbyte\u010dn\u011b hanliv\u011b nevyjad\u0159oval ke zka\u017eenosti kultu a o tom, jak po\u0161kozuje va\u0161i rodinu. Kdy\u017e to ud\u011bl\u00e1\u0161, m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 t\u00edm zp\u016fsobit, \u017ee tv\u016fj bl\u00edzk\u00fd se od tebe okam\u017eit\u011b odt\u00e1hne anebo p\u0159epne do obrann\u00e9ho re\u017eimu. Nav\u00e1zat znovu styk s\u00a0tvou rodinou bude zdlouhav\u00fd proces. Odborn\u00edci na du\u0161evn\u00ed zdrav\u00ed ti mohou poradit, jak ke sv\u00e9mu bl\u00edzk\u00e9mu spr\u00e1vn\u011b p\u0159istupovat a vztah uzdravit. Z\u00e1kladem je trp\u011blivost. O poradenstv\u00ed se lze do\u010d\u00edst v\u00a0Kapitole 12.<\/p>\n<p>Je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9, aby sis zjistil pot\u0159ebn\u00e9 informace o gaslightingu, kultech a extr\u00e9mistick\u00fdch skupin\u00e1ch. Zjisti, jak tyto organizace funguj\u00ed a co sv\u00fdm \u010dlen\u016fm slibuj\u00ed. Zjisti si tak\u00e9 detaily o tom, jak tv\u016fj bl\u00edzk\u00fd do kultu nebo skupiny vstoupil. \u010c\u00edm v\u00edce toho bude\u0161 v\u011bd\u011bt, t\u00edm sp\u00ed\u0161e mu bude\u0161 schopen b\u011bhem va\u0161eho rozhovoru v\u011bci oz\u0159ejmit (a podtrhnout manipulaci kultu).<\/p>\n<p>Co vede k\u00a0tomu, \u017ee se \u010dlov\u011bk rozhodne kult \u010di extr\u00e9mistickou skupinu opustit? Dle studie od doktorky Kiry Harrisov\u00e9 je n\u011bkolik hlavn\u00edch spou\u0161t\u011b\u010d\u016f: spole\u010densk\u00e9 rozbroje v\u00a0kultu, zm\u011bna celkov\u00e9 vnit\u0159n\u00ed atmosf\u00e9ry kultu, rozporupln\u00e9 pocity ohledn\u011b rol\u00ed v\u00a0kultu, veden\u00ed nedost\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00ed o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed \u010di pravidl\u016fm kultu, tlak ze strany policie a vliv rodiny. Rodina p\u0159i odchodu z\u00a0kultu tedy tak\u00e9 sehr\u00e1v\u00e1 roli. D\u00e1le lze sv\u00e9mu bl\u00edzk\u00e9mu p\u0159edkl\u00e1dat informace z\u00a0tisku, \u010di jin\u00e9 \u010dl\u00e1nky a videa, kter\u00e9 odkryj\u00ed rozpory mezi pravidly a skute\u010dn\u00fdm chov\u00e1n\u00ed veden\u00ed kultu, nebo jin\u00e9, kter\u00e9 tak\u00e9 mohou podn\u00edtit odchod z\u00a0kultu.<\/p>\n<p>Jestli\u017ee n\u011bkdo z tv\u00e9 rodiny p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161l\u00ed, jestli kult \u010di extr\u00e9mistickou skupinu opustit, je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9, aby v\u011bd\u011bl, \u017ee po odchodu nalezne bezpe\u010dn\u00e9 m\u00edsto, kam se bude moci uch\u00fdlit, \u017ee bude m\u00edt podporu rodiny a p\u0159\u00e1tel a p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b mo\u017enost n\u011bjak\u00e9ho finan\u010dn\u00edho p\u0159iv\u00fdd\u011blku. \u010c\u00edm l\u00e9pe bude\u0161 d\u00e1vat najevo, \u017ee ti z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed na tom, aby tv\u016fj bl\u00edzk\u00fd disponoval t\u011bmito jistotami, t\u00edm je pravd\u011bpodobn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, \u017ee tv\u016fj bl\u00edzk\u00fd nakonec kult opust\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>\u0158ekn\u011bme, \u017ee jsi byl trp\u011bliv\u00fd a v\u0161echny tyto mo\u017enosti jsi u\u017e zkusil. Snadno se \u010dlov\u011bk m\u016f\u017ee nechat \u00fapln\u011b zam\u011bstnat t\u00edm, aby sv\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edbuzn\u00e9 z\u00a0kultu dostal ven. Stanov si hranice, kdy\u017e si \u0159ekne\u0161 \u201ea u\u017e dost.\u201c M\u016f\u017ee ti na n\u011bkom z\u00e1le\u017eet, ale tak\u00e9 se m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 od z\u00e1le\u017eitosti oprostit a p\u0159ipustit si, \u017ee druh\u00fd ud\u011blal \u017eivotn\u00ed rozhodnut\u00ed, kter\u00e9 ovlivnilo tv\u00e9 citov\u00e9, t\u011blesn\u00e9 i finan\u010dn\u00ed zdrav\u00ed a \u017ee je na m\u00edst\u011b, aby p\u0159estal m\u00edt takov\u00fd vliv na tv\u016fj \u017eivot. Nem\u016f\u017ee\u0161 nikoho jin\u00e9ho nutit do toho, aby kult nebo extr\u00e9mistickou skupinu opustil. O v\u00edce informac\u00edch o organizac\u00edch a odborn\u00edc\u00edch na du\u0161evn\u00ed zdrav\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed pomohli \u010dlen\u016fm kult\u016f a jejich rodin\u00e1m, se lze do\u010d\u00edst na konci t\u00e9to knihy ve Zdroj\u00edch. Legitimn\u00ed organizace a odborn\u00e1 pomoc se vyzna\u010duje t\u00edm, \u017ee je erudovan\u00e1 ve v\u011bdeck\u00fdch studi\u00edch a \u010dl\u00e1nc\u00edch a je reprezentov\u00e1na autorizovan\u00fdmi a certifikovan\u00fdmi profesion\u00e1ly.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Co d\u011blat, kdy\u017e jsi v kultu ty?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Pokud jsi v\u00a0kultu \u010di extr\u00e9mistick\u00e9 skupin\u011b a dostala se ti do ruky tato kniha, je to mal\u00fd z\u00e1zrak. Musel sis toho u\u017e hodn\u011b vytrp\u011bt, abys po n\u00ed s\u00e1hl. Bu\u010f si pros\u00edm jist\u00fd, \u017ee i za hranicemi kultu pro tebe existuje nad\u011bje a smyslupln\u00fd \u0161\u0165astn\u00fd \u017eivot. M\u011bj na pam\u011bti, \u017ee t\u011b kult pr\u00e1vn\u011b nesm\u00ed dr\u017eet proti tv\u00e9 v\u016fli a pokud tak u\u010din\u00ed, jedn\u00e1 se o stejn\u00fd zlo\u010din jako nez\u00e1konn\u00e9 odn\u011bt\u00ed svobody.<\/p>\n<p>Prvn\u00ed co mus\u00ed\u0161 ud\u011blat je p\u0159ipravit pl\u00e1n \u00fat\u011bku, o kter\u00e9m nesm\u00ed\u0161 nikomu \u0159\u00edct. Kult pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b ji\u017e c\u00edt\u00ed, \u017ee se pot\u00e1c\u00ed\u0161, tak\u017ee se mus\u00ed\u0161 vyvarovat v\u0161em snah\u00e1m t\u011b d\u00e1le kontrolovat nebo izolovat od ostatn\u00edch n\u00e1sledovn\u00edk\u016f.<\/p>\n<p>M\u011bl by ses pokusit nav\u00e1zat kontakt s\u00a0n\u011bk\u00fdm \u201ez venku\u201c. M\u011bj na pam\u011bti, \u017ee kdy\u017e se s\u00a0n\u011bk\u00fdm bude\u0161 cht\u00edt spojit z\u00a0budovy kultu, tak tv\u016fj hovor m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt monitorov\u00e1n. Pokud ve sv\u00e9 snaze opustit kult usp\u011bje\u0161, ujisti se, \u017ee t\u011b nikdo nesleduje. Jak\u00e9koliv podez\u0159el\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed jdi okam\u017eit\u011b nahl\u00e1sit na policii.<\/p>\n<p>Pot\u00e9 co odejde\u0161, si pros\u00edm zjednej hodiny poradenstv\u00ed, tj. terapii. Jestli jsi byl v\u00a0kultu del\u0161\u00ed dobu, bude\u0161 se muset vypo\u0159\u00e1dat se zm\u011bnami pot\u0159ebn\u00fdmi k \u017eivotu \u201evenku\u201c \u00a0a stejn\u011b tak se vypo\u0159\u00e1dat s\u00a0mnohalet\u00fdm obdob\u00edm \u00fatlaku, zanedb\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, zaml\u010dov\u00e1n\u00edm informac\u00ed a se strachem z\u00a0toho, k\u00a0n\u011bkomu znovu m\u00edt citov\u00e9 vazby (Matthews and Salazar). To zvl\u00e1dne\u0161. Nesp\u011bchej. O poradenstv\u00ed se m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 do\u010d\u00edst v\u00edce v\u00a0Kapitole 12.<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator is-style-wide\" \/>\n<p><strong><em>ZDROJ:<br \/>\nGASLIGHTING: HOW TO RECOGNISE MANIPULATIVE AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE PEOPLE \u2013 AND BREAK FREE<\/em><\/strong><br \/>\n(<em>GASLIGHTING: JAK POZNAT MANIPULACI A PSYCHICK\u00c9 N\u00c1SIL\u00cd \u2013 A Z\u00cdSKAT SVOBODU)<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>7. kapitola: Dej si pozor na mu\u017ee za oponou \u2013 o fale\u0161n\u00fdch spasitel\u00edch, extr\u00e9mistick\u00fdch skupin\u00e1ch, uzav\u0159en\u00fdch komunit\u00e1ch, kultech a gaslightingu.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u00a0Autor: Ph.D. Stephanie Sarkis<br \/>\nVyd\u00e1n\u00ed: Orionbooks, 2019<br \/>\nP\u0159eklad: Svobodn\u00ed edito\u0159i blogu, 2020<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Zdroj: <a href=\"https:\/\/novyzivot.design.blog\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">blog o Nov\u00e9m \u017divot\u011b<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Co d\u011blat , kdy\u017e je n\u011bkdo z m\u00fdch nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch v kultu nebo extr\u00e9mistick\u00e9 skupin\u011b? Jestli n\u011bkdo z\u00a0tv\u00fdch bl\u00edzk\u00fdch je \u010dlenem kultu \u010di extr\u00e9mistick\u00e9 skupiny, m\u011bj pros\u00edm na pam\u011bti, \u017ee pro \u010dleny je obvykle nesm\u00edrn\u011b obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 skupinu opustit. Tv\u00e9mu bl\u00edzk\u00e9mu vtiskli do hlavy p\u0159edstavu, \u017ee nikdo jin\u00fd ne\u017e v\u016fdce kultu, kult [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[134],"tags":[135],"class_list":["post-7023","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-gaslighting","tag-stephanie-sarkis"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7023","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7023"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7023\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7024,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7023\/revisions\/7024"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7023"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7023"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7023"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}