{"id":7248,"date":"2020-06-15T08:37:37","date_gmt":"2020-06-15T06:37:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/?p=7248"},"modified":"2021-01-27T11:26:20","modified_gmt":"2021-01-27T10:26:20","slug":"portret-gaslightera-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/?p=7248","title":{"rendered":"Portr\u00e9t gaslightera (2)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Gaslighter a dilema<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dilema \u010dlov\u011bk zpravidla za\u017e\u00edv\u00e1, kdy\u017e je donucen vyb\u00edrat mezi dv\u011bma \u0161patn\u00fdmi mo\u017enostmi, nebo kdy\u017e mu jsou sd\u011bleny dv\u011b rozporupln\u00e9 skute\u010dnosti. Tv\u00e1 gaslightuj\u00edc\u00ed man\u017eelka ti m\u016f\u017ee nap\u0159\u00edklad \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee bys m\u011bl zhubnout a n\u00e1sledn\u011b ti k ve\u010de\u0159i podat tal\u00ed\u0159 pln\u00fd z\u00e1kusk\u016f. Takovou situaci nelze vy\u0159e\u0161it bez konfliktu. Gaslighter r\u00e1d pozoruje tv\u00e9 emo\u010dn\u00ed dilema \u2013 tv\u00e1 v\u00e1havost je znakem toho, \u017ee nad tebou m\u00e1 kontrolu.<\/p>\n

Gaslighter a soupe\u0159ivost<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mo\u017en\u00e1, \u017ee v\u00e1s rodi\u010de rozd\u011blili a d\u00edvali se na v\u00e1s r\u016fzn\u011b \u2013 tj. jako na \u201epoveden\u00e9\u201c a \u201enepoveden\u00e9\u201c. Mo\u017en\u00e1 jsi se sv\u00fdm sourozencem v mnohalet\u00e9 bitv\u011b, abyste dok\u00e1zali, kdo je \u201elep\u0161\u00ed.\u201c Mo\u017en\u00e1 se jeden druh\u00e9ho neust\u00e1le sna\u017e\u00edte p\u0159edhonit. Kdy\u017e koup\u00ed\u0161 sv\u00e9 matce \u00fa\u017easn\u00fd d\u00e1rek k narozenin\u00e1m, tak za t\u00fdden koup\u00ed tv\u016fj sourozenec je\u0161t\u011b n\u011bco exluzivn\u011bj\u0161\u00edho. Neust\u00e1le se p\u0159etahujete o p\u0159\u00edze\u0148 a pozornost sv\u00e9ho gaslightuj\u00edc\u00edho rodi\u010de. Rodi\u010d v\u00e1s od narozen\u00ed vedl k tomu, abyste se takto postrkovali. M\u00e1loco m\u00e1 gaslighter tolik r\u00e1d, jako kdy\u017e lid\u00e9 spolu soupe\u0159\u00ed o to, aby si z\u00edskali jeho p\u0159\u00edze\u0148.<\/p>\n

M\u011bj ale na pam\u011bti, \u017ee tato sout\u011b\u017eivost je klamn\u00e1 a \u017ee ve skute\u010dnosti ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1te sv\u00e9 siln\u00e9 a slab\u00e9 str\u00e1nky. To, \u017ee spolu jako sourozenci sout\u011b\u017e\u00edte, v\u00e1m dost mo\u017en\u00e1 br\u00e1n\u00ed v tom se opravdov\u011b poznat. Po mnoha letech si m\u016f\u017eete zp\u011btn\u011b uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee jste oba pouze st\u00e1li v bezv\u00fdchodn\u00e9 situaci a \u017ee se ve skute\u010dnosti m\u00e1te r\u00e1di. Nikdy nen\u00ed pozd\u011b na to nanovo za\u010d\u00edt.<\/p>\n

Gaslighter a spolupr\u00e1ce<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gaslighter nev\u011b\u0159\u00ed na spolupr\u00e1ci \u2013 podn\u011bcuje konflikty mezi lidmi proto, aby plnili j\u00edm p\u0159edepsanou agendu. Podn\u011bcov\u00e1n\u00ed konflikt\u016f m\u00e1 jen jednu v\u00fdjimku \u2013 v\u0161ichni, kdo jsou pod\u0159\u00edzeni gaslighterovi, mus\u00ed d\u011blat to, co od nich chce \u2013 jin\u00fdmi slovy d\u011blat to, co jim \u0159ekne. Kdy\u017e se n\u011bkdo z pod\u0159\u00edzen\u00fdch vzp\u00edr\u00e1, je okam\u017eit\u011b napomenut a dost mo\u017en\u00e1 m\u016f\u017ee o\u010dek\u00e1vat vyhazov. Bo\u017ee chra\u0148 toho, o kom si gaslightuj\u00edc\u00ed nad\u0159\u00edzen\u00fd mysl\u00ed, \u017ee proti n\u011bmu ve\u0159ejn\u011b vystoupil. Takovouto negativitistickou optiku nelze tolerovat.<\/p>\n

Gaslighter a spojenci<\/strong><\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e dok\u00e1\u017ee\u0161 udr\u017eovat sv\u00e9 pod\u0159\u00edzen\u00e9 (\u010di voli\u010de nebo n\u00e1sledovn\u00edky) v z\u00e1vislosti na sob\u011b, tak ti projde t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 v\u0161echno. I kdy\u017e tv\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed bude pobu\u0159uj\u00edc\u00ed, tak t\u011b nikdo nezpochybn\u00ed. Pokud by t\u011b toti\u017e cht\u011bli zpochybnit, tak se t\u00edm vystav\u00ed riziku, \u017ee je od\u0159\u00edzne\u0161. Jednou z cest, jak gaslighte\u0159i dosahuj\u00ed nez\u00e1vislosti je, \u017ee se spoj\u00ed se slab\u00fdm spojencem. Gaslighter d\u00e1le dosahuje prokazateln\u011b siln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed pozice, ne\u017e jeho spojenec a spojenec se na n\u011bm st\u00e1v\u00e1 z\u00e1visl\u00fd. Spojenec je n\u00e1sledn\u011b gaslighterem zne\u0161kodn\u011bn jako\u017eto postradateln\u00e1, ne\u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed konkurence a t\u00edm je\u0161t\u011b v\u00edce pos\u00edl\u00ed z\u00e1vislost ostatn\u00edch p\u0159\u00edmo na sob\u011b.<\/p>\n

Gaslighter ve vztahu<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nebylo by skv\u011bl\u00e9, kdyby lid\u00e9 m\u011bli svou patologii napsanou na \u010dele? Takov\u00fd luxus ale nem\u00e1me! Gaslighterovi se tak vcelku snadno da\u0159\u00ed p\u0159edst\u00edrat, \u017ee je \u201enorm\u00e1ln\u00ed.\u201c Ne\u017e se odv\u00e1\u017e\u00ed ti poodhalit sv\u00e9 prav\u00e9, \u0161\u00edlen\u00e9 nitro, tak se n\u011bkolikr\u00e1t ujist\u00ed, \u201e\u017ee t\u011b u\u017e m\u00e1.\u201c Gaslighter bude rychle posilovat svou pozici, p\u0159itom obratn\u011b dr\u017eet na uzd\u011b sv\u00e9 \u0161\u00edlenstv\u00ed \u2026 dokud ho nena\u0161tve\u0161. Pak sleduj!<\/p>\n

Jeho na\u0161tvanost m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt zp\u016fsobena t\u00edm, \u017ee ses postavila za sv\u016fj n\u00e1zor, nebo \u017ee jsi pouk\u00e1zala na n\u011bco, co ti vad\u00ed, nebo \u017ee ses ne\u0159\u00eddila n\u011bjak\u00fdm nepsan\u00fdm pravidlem, o kter\u00e9m ti v\u016fbec ne\u0159ekl. V m\u017eiku se z kr\u00e1lovny stane troska! Gaslighter za\u0159\u00edd\u00ed v\u011bci tak, abys v\u017edy spadla z tr\u016fnu, na kter\u00fd t\u011b posad\u00ed. T\u00edm, \u017ee t\u011b vyzdvihne a pot\u00e9 shod\u00ed, t\u011b udr\u017euje mimo hru. Soustavn\u011b naru\u0161uje tvoj\u00ed psychickou rovnov\u00e1hu \u2026 a t\u00edm t\u011b \u010din\u00ed z\u00e1vislou na sob\u011b, co\u017e je to, o co mu ve skute\u010dnosti jde.<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e spadne\u0161 z piedest\u00e1lu, na kter\u00fd t\u011b gaslighter postavil, tak ti u\u017e nic nepom\u016f\u017ee. Nic. Z pochval se stane kritika. Te\u010f v jeho o\u010d\u00edch u\u017e nezvl\u00e1dne\u0161 ud\u011blat nic spr\u00e1vn\u011b. \u0158ekne ti, \u017ee vlastn\u011b ani nev\u00ed, co na tob\u011b kdy vid\u011bl. Intenzita gaslighterovy manipulace a zostuzov\u00e1n\u00ed nav\u00edc hbit\u011b eskaluje, kdy\u017e za\u010dne\u0161 projevovat zn\u00e1mky zranitelnosti a znejist\u011bn\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Pr\u00e1v\u011b v tuto chv\u00edli ti gaslighter \u0159ekne, \u017ee m\u00e1\u0161 p\u0159\u00ed\u0161ern\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edbuzn\u00e9 \u2013 \u0159ekne, \u017ee jsou k ni\u010demu, chovaj\u00ed se jako tot\u00e1ln\u00ed nuly, a \u017ee na tebe maj\u00ed \u0161patn\u00fd vliv. \u0158ekne ti, \u017ee kdy\u017e se od nich vrac\u00ed\u0161, tak se v\u017edycky chov\u00e1\u0161 stra\u0161n\u011b a \u017ee pro dobro vztahu by bylo vhodn\u00e9 kontakty s nimi omezit. Bude ti vyhro\u017eovat, \u017ee t\u011b opust\u00ed, proto\u017ee tohle je nejhor\u0161\u00ed vztah, v jak\u00e9m kdy byl.<\/p>\n

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ZDROJ:
\nGASLIGHTING: HOW TO RECOGNISE MANIPULATIVE AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE PEOPLE \u2013 AND BREAK FREE<\/em><\/strong>
\n(GASLIGHTING: JAK POZNAT MANIPULACI A PSYCHICK\u00c9 N\u00c1SIL\u00cd \u2013 A Z\u00cdSKAT SVOBODU)<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0Autor: Ph.D. Stephanie Sarkis
\nVyd\u00e1n\u00ed: Orionbooks, 2019
\nP\u0159eklad: Svobodn\u00ed edito\u0159i blogu, 2020<\/em><\/p>\n

Zdroj: blog o Nov\u00e9m \u017divot\u011b<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Gaslighter a dilema Dilema \u010dlov\u011bk zpravidla za\u017e\u00edv\u00e1, kdy\u017e je donucen vyb\u00edrat mezi dv\u011bma \u0161patn\u00fdmi mo\u017enostmi, nebo kdy\u017e mu jsou sd\u011bleny dv\u011b rozporupln\u00e9 skute\u010dnosti. Tv\u00e1 gaslightuj\u00edc\u00ed man\u017eelka ti m\u016f\u017ee nap\u0159\u00edklad \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee bys m\u011bl zhubnout a n\u00e1sledn\u011b ti k ve\u010de\u0159i podat tal\u00ed\u0159 pln\u00fd z\u00e1kusk\u016f. Takovou situaci nelze vy\u0159e\u0161it bez konfliktu. Gaslighter […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[134],"tags":[135],"class_list":["post-7248","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-gaslighting","tag-stephanie-sarkis"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7248","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7248"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7248\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7276,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7248\/revisions\/7276"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7248"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7248"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7248"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}