Kdysi jsem m\u011bla mo\u017enost mluvit se studenty jedn\u00e9 st\u0159edn\u00ed \u0161koly. Kdy\u017e do\u0161lo na ot\u00e1zky a odpov\u011bdi, n\u011bjak\u00e1 d\u00edvka zvedla ruku a ve sv\u00e9 \u00fazkostliv\u00e9 state\u010dnosti se zeptala: \u201eNadio, co byste poradila n\u011bkomu v m\u00e9m v\u011bku, kdo by mohl b\u00fdt \u0161ikanov\u00e1n, kdo nem\u00e1 mnoho p\u0159\u00e1tel a mo\u017en\u00e1 si z n\u011bj jin\u00e9 d\u011bti d\u011blaj\u00ed legraci?\u201c<\/p>\n
Pod\u00edvala jsem se j\u00ed p\u0159\u00edmo do o\u010d\u00ed a \u0159ekla: \u201ePod\u00edvej se, naprosto to ch\u00e1pu, proto\u017ee jsem to sama za\u017eila. Ale i kdy\u017e je to tak hrozn\u00e9, jak to vid\u00ed\u0161 pr\u00e1v\u011b te\u010f … ud\u011blej, co m\u016f\u017ee\u0161, abys t\u00edm pro\u0161la, proto\u017ee ti mohu sl\u00edbit jednu v\u011bc: Ti, kte\u0159\u00ed byli ve \u0161kole \u0161ikanov\u00e1ni a zvl\u00e1dli to, jsou jako dosp\u011bl\u00ed mnohem skv\u011blej\u0161\u00ed a mnohem zaj\u00edmav\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, ne\u017e ti, kte\u0159\u00ed byli t\u011bmi \u0161ikan\u00e9ry. Projde\u0161 t\u00edm a bude\u0161 \u00fa\u017easn\u00e1. To ti m\u016f\u017eu sl\u00edbit. A ty d\u011bti, kter\u00e9 t\u011b takto \u0161ikanovaly, nebudou nic jin\u00e9ho, ne\u017e pozn\u00e1mkou pod \u010darou. O tom jsem p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den\u00e1. Neboj se, tv\u016fj \u017eivot nekon\u010d\u00ed st\u0159edn\u00ed \u0161kolou.\u201c<\/p>\n
Jej\u00ed obli\u010dej se rozz\u00e1\u0159il, jako bych j\u00ed pr\u00e1v\u011b \u0159ekla kombinaci, \u017ee na jej\u00ed nevyl\u00e9\u010ditelnou nemoc m\u00e1m l\u00e9k, a \u017ee je nav\u00edc \u00fa\u017easn\u011b kr\u00e1sn\u00e1.\u201c<\/p>\n
P\u0159em\u00fd\u0161lela jsem o tom, jak v r\u016fzn\u00fdch obdob\u00edch m\u00e9ho \u017eivota existovaly s\u00edly, kter\u00e9 se zd\u00e1ly tak mocn\u00e9 a zcela mimo mou kontrolu. M\u00e9 z\u00e1vislosti, m\u00e9 nezdrav\u00e9 vztahy, m\u016fj hrozn\u00fd \u0161\u00e9f, m\u00e9 deprese. Byli jako krutovl\u00e1dci, kte\u0159\u00ed ur\u010dit\u00fd po\u010det let vl\u00e1dli nad m\u00fdm \u017eivotem, a za jejich\u017e vl\u00e1dy se zd\u00e1lo, \u017ee nic jin\u00e9ho nem\u016f\u017ee existovat.<\/p>\n
A\u017e moc dob\u0159e si pamatuji i na dobu, kdy jsem i j\u00e1 sama byla \u0161ikanov\u00e1na. Vzpom\u00edn\u00e1m si na psychick\u00e9 brn\u011bn\u00ed, kter\u00fdm jsem se ka\u017ed\u00fd den musela obrnit, abych to vydr\u017eela. Soci\u00e1ln\u00ed darwinismus (siln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed p\u0159e\u017e\u00edv\u00e1), n\u00e1sil\u00ed a povy\u0161ov\u00e1n\u00ed naprosto nevyhnuteln\u011b vyvol\u00e1valy \u00fazkosti a strach. Ale zvl\u00e1dla jsem to, bez ohledu na to, jak stra\u0161liv\u00ed se mi ti lid\u00e9 tehdy zd\u00e1li. Dnes u\u017e si v\u011bt\u0161inou ani nepamatuji jejich jm\u00e9na. A ta, kter\u00e1 si pamatuji se stala jen pozn\u00e1mkou pod \u010darou m\u00e9ho \u00fa\u017easn\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00edb\u011bhu.<\/p>\n
Upraveno z \u010dl\u00e1nku Nadii Bolz-Weber<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kdysi jsem m\u011bla mo\u017enost mluvit se studenty jedn\u00e9 st\u0159edn\u00ed \u0161koly. Kdy\u017e do\u0161lo na ot\u00e1zky a odpov\u011bdi, n\u011bjak\u00e1 d\u00edvka zvedla ruku a ve sv\u00e9 \u00fazkostliv\u00e9 state\u010dnosti se zeptala: \u201eNadio, co byste poradila n\u011bkomu v m\u00e9m v\u011bku, kdo by mohl b\u00fdt \u0161ikanov\u00e1n, kdo nem\u00e1 mnoho p\u0159\u00e1tel a mo\u017en\u00e1 si z n\u011bj jin\u00e9 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[112,134],"tags":[124],"class_list":["post-8021","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-nabozenstvi","category-gaslighting","tag-nadia-bolz-weber"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8021","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8021"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8021\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8025,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8021\/revisions\/8025"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8021"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8021"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sozo.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8021"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}